I feel my level of care I have towards my children is a lot better than what it would be if I was without a break. Safe Families involvement has made my relationship with my own kids better.
Tom is a young, single dad to twin little girls, Rose and Susie.
“I’ve got very little family help,” explains Tom. “Little to no help. No friends that can help us, they’re all busy or working.
“I’m constantly needed by my two children. There’s things I can’t do with my children with me, simple things like shopping. I can’t get a good shop in without help.”
Social services referred Tom to Safe Families for Children and he was matched with a volunteer named Louise who would take the twins for up to 6 hours at a time so Tom could go to doctor’s appointments, do bigger shops, or have a break.
At first Tom was anxious about letting the children be hosted overnight but as his confidence and trust in Louise grew he felt comfortable letting the children stay overnight.
“I was extremely anxious prior to the involvement,” Tom admits. “I was anxious about having the support and not having the support. Now I feel confident working with them.”
Describing the volunteer as “friendly”, “helpful” and “trustworthy”, Tom describes how Louise bonded with the family.
“The kids get on great with her,” says Tom. “Their faces light up when she comes through the door. They recognise her voice and they’ll start laughing. They know when she’s here and I think they really enjoy spending time with her. She’s a lovely lady and they really like her.”
Safe Families support won’t be around forever, but it’s helping Tom through what he calls “the hardest part of bringing up two children”.
“I would have found it difficult to cope without the additional support. I could have cracked under the pressure of parenthood, especially with being on my own.
“I feel my level of care I have towards my children is a lot better than what it would be if I was without a break. Safe Families involvement has made my relationship with my own kids better.
“I see my future in a positive way. I believe I can now cope well, even with Safe Families pulling out in the future, I still believe I‘ve gotten the over the hardest part of bringing up two children. And they’ve helped us through that hardest part.”
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