For some of us, life doesn’t pan out the way we hoped it would. The unplanned events we encounter can turn our lives upside down and before you know it, a downward spiral has taken us from feeling on top of the world to the lowest we’ve ever felt. Confidence left a long time ago and anxiety has taken its place. Anxiety is no easy obstacle to conquer, and it can take hold of our social capabilities. Climbing a mountain seems easier than going out into public, and meeting up with friends becomes harder than ever before.
Imagine the difficulties a single mother, with children to care for, would face having to deal with anxiety. Her life is no longer her own; everything she does is either out of love for her children or fear for her anxiety. She has contact with other people: professionals; the only people who seem to care. But they are just doing their job, they’re doing what they’re paid for.
Safe Families for Children has helped many in such situations. One case saw a Family Friend meet up for a coffee and a chat with a struggling single mum of two. Mum’s anxiety made it hard to order at the counter, which is to be expected after all she has been through.
The Family Friend and mum got down to business; they talked. That’s all they did, and for that time and place, that was enough. After their meeting the volunteer felt they could have spoken to each other for hours and mum said how ‘lovely it was to do something normal’.
Simply going out for a coffee might not seem like much…and it isn’t! But for socially isolated parents suffering from anxiety, something this simple can have a profound positive impact. It’s all about rediscovering lost confidence, which takes a lot of time, but being there for somebody when nobody else is, greatly contributes to the repair process.
Our volunteers’ only motive is compassion and a willingness to do good for others with no expectation of anything in return. Seeing the difference their input has is the bonus our volunteers continually say they are blessed with.